I Peter 3

Peter continues to teach and encourage the followers of Christ to have the character of Christ... doing what is right, honoring and respecting others, entrusting ourselves into the Lord' s hands..

To wives, Peter says - focus on the "hidden person of the heart" by being submissive to your husband,  being gentle and having a quiet spirit.
To husbands,  Peter says - have understanding and yet "grant ( your wife) honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, "

"To sum up, let all be harmonious sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for your were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing. " v8

We are told to "sanctify Christ as Lord in [our] hearts" -  even if that means suffering for doing what is right or being slandered or reviled.  For this is what Jesus did.  He "died for sins once for all, the just for the unjust, in order that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh but made alive in the spirit. " 

Father in heaven, fashion my heart with Your imperishable grace and beauty - with quietness and gentleness, with patience and hope and love.  May I be kind, even when others are unkind.  May I be humble and filled with peace, even when things are hard.  May I know Your blessings that I might be Yours forever. Amen.