Numbers 30 This chapter clarifies the Lord's commands about making vows. "If a man make a vow to the Lord or takes and oath to bind himself with a binding obligation, he shall not violate his word; he shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth."
Ecclesiastes 5:4 says this, "When you make a vow to God, do not be late in paying it, for He takes no delight in fools. Pay what you vow!"
The psalmists speak about keeping vows also:
Psalm 116:14 and 17 "I shall pay my vows to the Lord, Oh may it be in the presence of all His people."
Psalm 66:13 -14 "I shall come into Thy house with burnt offerings; I shall pay my vows, which my lips uttered and my mouth spoke when I was in distress."
Psalm 22:25 "From Thee comes my praise in the great assembly; I shall pay my vows before those who fear Him."
The King James version says "If a man vow a vow.. " It is both a verb and a noun. It means to make a promise and it is the thing promised. To make a vow to the Lord is to bind yourself before Him to fulfill Your promise. To "pay" a vow means to make good.. to complete or finish, to fully do what you have promised to do. It is a covenant of peace between the one who fulfills his vow and the One to whom He make the vow. Whatever vow or promise that you make to the Lord.. you are bound to Him to complete it.. fully.
The Lord makes another statement about vows.. ".. if a woman makes a vow to the Lord, and binds herself by an obligation in her father's house in her youth.. " Then.. it is up to her father to either permit or forbid her to keep this vow. Or if the woman is married it was up to her husband to either allow her to keep it or to forbid it. Only a widow or divorced woman is bound by the vow she makes without intervention. There is a level of protection over a woman.. her father or her husband can annul the vow if necessary.. especially if her vow was a "rash statement of her lips with which she has bound herself."
Jesus spoke about vows too... "But I say to you, make no oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is the footstool of His feet.. But let your statement be, 'Yes, yes" or No, no'; and anything beyond these is of evil." ( Matthew 5:34-37) To make a vow or oath or a promise to God and not keep it is a terrible thing.. So terrible that Jesus tells us not to do it at all!
We probably do this more than we think. There are times when people are in desperate situations and they make "foxhole prayers".. promising God whatever He desires if He would just rescue them from the present situation. But.. afterwards they don't ever remember that they made a promise. This is "evil" Jesus tells us. Many, many people have made marriage vows.. before God.. and failed to keep their promises to love, cherish, or stay together as one.. never realizing who they have spurned.. not just a spouse but the Lord God.
So, what can we learn from this? Should we never make a promise? Maybe... but more so, we must learn to be careful of what we say.. our words mean something. We may not be making a solemn vow.. but we may speak "rashly" or say that we will do something but fail to complete what we said. The Lord calls us to be people who have integrity and speak truth.. He calls us to have a guard over our tongues and to be gentle and meek.. self-controlled.. so that our words are pleasing in His ears.
Father in heaven, once again we seek the Holy Spirit to fill us so completely that we might live holy lives of obedience to Your Word. May the words of our mouths and the meditations of our hearts be pleasing in Your sight. Help us to remember that our tongues have the power of life and death ( Proverbs 18:21) and be mindful whenever we speak. Thank You Lord for Your great patience and grace towards us.. Forgive us for the times we have broken our promises or have spoken rashly. Cleanse us from all evil we pray, in Jesus' name. Amen,